30 minutes could save the day!

October 3rd, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , |

It’s Soctober, which means it’s social compassion month at Bare Hands Central. If you find this blog useful, in the name of social compassion, please share it with a friend so they benefit from it too. Switching gears isn’t instant and yet we often expect it of ourselves and others. The end of the working day is often when this happens the most. I’m not sure about you but when I get home from work, it takes me a good [...]

Feelings… how do you know when to trust them?

September 25th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , |

Feelings… have you ever felt something so strongly that you’re sure you can predict the future, or what someone else is thinking, or when to make a decision one way or the other? We can be uncannily accurate about what another person is feeling and it’s what makes us empathetic individuals, which is great. We’d all be psychopaths without this ability. However, feelings can just as easily lead people astray. You only have to ask someone who’s addicted to gambling, [...]

How to develop your ‘brain to mouth’ filter…

September 22nd, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , |

When was the last time you had ‘foot in mouth’ disease or were at the receiving end of it? With the prevalence of Instagram, email, Snapchat, and so much more, the ramifications of not filtering before hitting [send], [post] or speaking can cause waves of after-effects. A simple comment on Facebook can go viral in hours and open people up to a world of abuse. It’s more important now than ever to start being mindful of what we say before [...]

Can stress be good for you?

September 12th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , |

Strangely enough, yes it can. Stress gets a bad wrap in the press but there is such a thing as helpful stress. Anyone who has suffered an extended period of boredom will fully relate to how the lack of any expectations or pressures can leave you feeling listless and unmotivated. A dose of healthy stress can reconnect people with feeling truly alive, particularly when it involves learning and stretching to newer levels of competency in areas that a deeply aligned [...]

How to find more of what you want in life?

September 8th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , |

Focus, focus, focus. So much depends on what we choose to notice and how we frame it. Do you see the glass half empty or half full? Is your work load overwhelming or demanding but interesting? Are the kids noisy and disruptive or fun loving and active? Do you make mistakes or learn lessons? So much depends on the way we choose to see it and the great thing is, we do have choice and we can practice looking through [...]

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Is your attention span getting shorter? You’re not alone…

September 1st, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , |

A recent article in The Daily Good cited the 54 page study by Microsoft Corporation, which has found that our digital lifestyle is reducing our concentration span. It’s now 8 seconds …that’s less than a goldfish (9 seconds)! In effect, technology is now creating generations of ‘ADHD’ like adults who are becoming accustomed to constant stimuli and the need for distraction. For example, 77 percent of people aged 18 to 24 responded “yes” when asked “When nothing is occupying my [...]

Clarity of Mind may be a page away…

August 22nd, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , |

Life can get confusing and overwhelming at times and in the midst of the storm, it can be hard to find clarity. How do you make the right choice when you feel torn in multiple directions? Writing 20 minutes a day, for four consecutive days, has been shown to really help? Just 20 minutes of non-stop writing, without thinking about; grammar, punctuation or spelling, can reduce stress levels, remove mental blocks and open up new possibilities! In 2004 Dr. Alan [...]

Going Wild Improves Mental Performance

August 4th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , |

I was picking my path carefully, jumping from one boulder or driftwood log to the next, when I was struck by the realisation. “I haven’t thought about work for at least three days!” Wow, HOW did that happen? That day, on my way to the outdoor ‘loo’, below the high tide mark at our camping area on Ross Islets off Vancouver Island’s wild west coast, I experienced a sense of relief (no, not that kind of relief!). It reminded me [...]

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An open letter to my friend… ‘You are enough.’

March 17th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

To my friend, This comes today to say, “You’re special!” I want you to know how much I value and appreciate you for the wonderful woman that you are; a woman I proudly call ‘my friend’. I see you struggling at the moment and I’m reminded of some wise words written by Brene Brown in The Gifts of Imperfection. She said, “Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.” Our [...]

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Will Our Girls Grow Up Wanting to Be Women?

March 1st, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , |

As we lead up to International Women’s Day next week, we’ve nominated March to be our month to focus on inspirational women - some that we know and some whom we only know by reputation. It’s also a wonderful opportunity to contemplate what we can do now to improve the conditions of women in the future. As a mother, this is particularly close to my heart as I consider how life will unfold for our daughters and their daughters. The [...]

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How to manage fear in those tough moments …

January 25th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , |

This week I’m playing the waiting game… waiting for biopsy results. It’s never fun when a doctor tells you they ‘need to do further tests’ and it’s in those moments of incredible vulnerability it’s easy to fall prey to fear and anxiety. If I’d been in this situation 10 years ago, my reactions over these last few weeks would have been to panic, start blaming all and sundry and feeling completely helpless. I’m grateful I have some knowledge that helps [...]

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Feel Like Screaming? Try 4-Step Win-Win Formula

January 20th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , |

People can be so frustrating, at times. Colleagues, family members, friends and yes, yours truly! We’re all capable of doing or saying things that can cause angst or irritation; learning to negotiate conflict with tact and respect is one of the great challenges in life. If frustrations aren’t resolved early they sometimes escalate, resulting in an outburst of emotion that can be unpleasant, to say the least. Then comes guilt, “Why did I say that?” “I should have known better!” [...]

What will you keep for 2016?

January 12th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , |

Holidays can bring many different experiences. I tend to use the Christmas one to restore my own balance and connect with what’s important again - the people I cherish, experiences that time doesn’t necessarily permit throughout the year and a chance to contemplate a focus for the year ahead. How do you use holidays? Would you like to share? One of my highlights over the last two weeks, apart from family time, was being in Melbourne on a Sunday near [...]

My embarrassing story…What’s yours?

December 16th, 2015|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , |

It must be nearing the end of the year because my brain is dipping into crisis management mode rather than Zen-like calm. It seems my organisation skills are going haywire. How do I know this? Well, on Sunday I was in the marking zone, powering through end of year student assessments and I stopped for a lunch break. I was calmly making a cup of tea when panic descended. Oh no - I was meant to be a Qi Gong [...]

What I Learned While Folding Socks

December 9th, 2015|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , |

Do socks mount up like Everest in your laundry? Do they threaten to overflow even your largest laundry basket if you dare put off folding them for a whole week? Do you end up with lonely socks that have apparently repelled their mate...two socks on two feet both presumably taken off within seconds of each other, are separated by some strange twist of fate. Then, the day after you finally discard the loner, the missing mate miraculously comes back into [...]

5 tips for Surviving Christmas Stress

December 2nd, 2015|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , |

Are you counting down to the end of the year and a well-earned break? Christmas is that time of year when families come together, work slows down for a few days and it’s time to take stock of another year and rejuvenate for the year ahead. But, for many people, Christmas is not synonymous with ‘time to relax’. Instead, it’s often the cause of feeling overwhelmed, anxious and exhausted, so here are a handful of strategies to help you enjoy [...]