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  • family_on_hands

Family culture: it’s in your hands

May 12th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

Family... You can't live without them and, sometimes, it's jolly hard to live with them! Whatever the nature of our family and relationships, regularly taking a moment to reflect on what family means to us and the type of family culture we want to belong to, is really useful. If there's a prevailing mood of cooperation and respect within your crew, that's great! If you feel there's room for improvement, that's great too because now is the perfect time to [...]

  • thank_you_note

Take Time to say Thank You

April 28th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , |

Taxi driver, nutritionist, chief cook, 24/7 counsellor, cleaner of houses, first aider, dispenser of kisses (and bandaids!), laundress extraordinaire, proof reader, cheer leader, police woman, diplomatic adviser, financial adviser, career coach, keeper of dreams and secrets...all roles that go hand in hand with being a mother. I almost forgot to mention that she’s also the source of unconditional love and wisdom, but that goes without saying! Remind yourself that you're doing a great job As mum it’s easy to forget [...]

  • telephone_conversation

Difficult Conversations Made Easy…Easier

April 14th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

You’ve probably discovered, like I have, that some conversations are hard to have. As a result they can be put off; sometimes forever. Usually, it’s the fear of hurting someone’s feelings or of feeling hurt by what they might say that stops us from taking action, but in the end that doesn’t yield the best result for anyone. When situations are left unresolved, angst builds and relationships suffer. Feeling confident to discuss things as they arise helps avoid misunderstandings and [...]

  • gratitude_makes_it_enough

What Does Your Happy List Reveal About You?

March 31st, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

At the beginning of last year, as a grade 9 survivor (no small feat!), Miss 15 decided that grade 10 was going to be a happy year. To her credit, she decided to record one thing on her calendar, at the end of each day, that made her happy. Simple enough. What started out as an idea became a personal challenge to see if she could stick to it. Most days her happy moment was something simple...taking the dog for [...]

  • grow_up_to_be_a_woman

Will Our Girls Grow Up Wanting to Be Women?

March 1st, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , |

As we lead up to International Women’s Day next week, we’ve nominated March to be our month to focus on inspirational women - some that we know and some whom we only know by reputation. It’s also a wonderful opportunity to contemplate what we can do now to improve the conditions of women in the future. As a mother, this is particularly close to my heart as I consider how life will unfold for our daughters and their daughters. The [...]

  • kitchen_rules

My First Kitchen Infringement Notice

February 16th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

A few months ago I came across a sign which declared “Kitchen Rules” and I simply couldn’t resist. It was as if I’d written them myself, so I bought the sign and boldly posted it on the kitchen wall for all to see. Over the next few days I got a few comments from the crew, things like, “New kitchen rules? What’s this all about?” Fast forward to one Friday night recently. By some minor miracle the entire clan had [...]

  • retrospective_bucket_list

The Retrospective Bucket List – What’s On Yours?

February 1st, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , |

I saw my friend’s eyebrows raise in amusement, perhaps even a hint of astonishment, when I told her, “I’m going surfing tomorrow.” Learning to surf was on THE LIST for Miss 16 and her birthday seemed like the perfect opportunity. In lieu of a birthday party and to honour her wish to make this year one of activity and adventure, the family decided to go along for the ‘ride’! So, there I was with the rest of the class; our [...]

Two Words That Keep Couples Together

October 28th, 2015|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

Couples who say “Thank You” have better marital outcomes. Just two little words with really BIG potential. According to Ted Futris, associate professor at the college of Family and Consumer Sciences and co-author of a recently published study*, “Feeling appreciated and believing that your spouse values you directly influences how you feel about your marriage, how committed you are to it, and your belief that it will last." The study involved 468 married individuals who were asked about how financial [...]

A Lesson In Compassion

October 14th, 2015|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , |

An elderly friend recently recounted to me what she called her ‘first lesson in compassion’, a story worth sharing. One day, when she was just seven years old, my friend pointed to a girl walking down the street outside her house and told her mother, “That girl, Irene, is in my class at school.” The girl was walking alone, her clothes outdated and her hair untidy. My friend’s mother looked down at her daughter and said, “You be kind to [...]

Feeling stuck? Give up these 5 habits and break free

September 30th, 2015|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , |

Have you ever heard someone say, “I wish I could ________.” Maybe, like me, you’ve done it too. “I wish I could _________” You can fill in the blank with almost anything...have a holiday, lose 5 kg, have a date night, play an instrument, stop smoking, get fit, get the boss to notice my efforts, stop arguing with my teens, stop arguing with my parents... The potential list of  ‘wishes’ is endless. It starts with a desire for something different. [...]

  • Linda Cliatt-Wayman

Four little words for peace of mind…

July 22nd, 2015|Categories: Blog, Communication & conflict, Unappreciated|Tags: , , |

I was inspired recently watching Linda Cliatt-Wayman’s Tedx Talk on schools and how as a principal she has transformed handfuls of low sociodemographic schools in America. Her motto is to “lead fearlessly and love hard”. What inspired me most was her saying “So what! Now what?”. When a child behaved badly and blamed it on their past or circumstances, she would say, “So what! Now what?”. When staff complained about the lack of resources or low interest from students or [...]

Practise Emotional First Aid and Feel Better

February 19th, 2015|Categories: Blog, Isolation, Low mood|Tags: , |

Managing emotional injuries and wounds appropriately is a vital part of health and wellbeing and can help prevent high blood pressure, reduce the incidence of depression and lead to longer life expectancy! The trick is having a well stocked emotional first aid kit and seeking professional help when we need it. In this Ted Talk, Guy Winch, Ph.D., discusses how important it is that we know what to do to combat loneliness, how to choose more useful responses to feelings of [...]