• Loving_relationships_one_question

One question that could help a relationship last a lifetime…

March 21st, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , |

Easter is almost upon us and hopefully this means some R&R for you. With that in mind and contemplating what type of Easter would be worth having this year, I remembered a conversation with a student last week and wanted to share. My student is a gentleman in his early 70’s who has just retired, survived life-threatening illness and has commenced study for a new career in counselling. We were chatting and he shared he’d been married for 45 years, [...]

  • Virtues_vs_wins

Who will you impress and how?

March 7th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , |

Following on from my last blog, my friend passed away last week and his funeral was on Saturday. Repeatedly people kept remembering how he had made them feel - accepted, loved and included. He lived a life of virtue and valued everyone that came into it and we were all warmed by it. How do you like to impress people? By wins or virtues… When I was in my early twenties I thought life was about getting rungs on the [...]

Lessons of Loss and Love

November 25th, 2015|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , |

Spending time with people who are approaching the end of life is an experience I’ve come to value for the way it helps me put things in perspective. As a result, I’ve discovered that when I approach the week just one day at a time, as you do when circumstance prompts you to remember that each one is a gift, it becomes easier to discern the important  things of life from the not so important. Here are five things I’ve [...]

Two Words That Keep Couples Together

October 28th, 2015|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

Couples who say “Thank You” have better marital outcomes. Just two little words with really BIG potential. According to Ted Futris, associate professor at the college of Family and Consumer Sciences and co-author of a recently published study*, “Feeling appreciated and believing that your spouse values you directly influences how you feel about your marriage, how committed you are to it, and your belief that it will last." The study involved 468 married individuals who were asked about how financial [...]

  • Linda Cliatt-Wayman

Four little words for peace of mind…

July 22nd, 2015|Categories: Blog, Communication & conflict, Unappreciated|Tags: , , |

I was inspired recently watching Linda Cliatt-Wayman’s Tedx Talk on schools and how as a principal she has transformed handfuls of low sociodemographic schools in America. Her motto is to “lead fearlessly and love hard”. What inspired me most was her saying “So what! Now what?”. When a child behaved badly and blamed it on their past or circumstances, she would say, “So what! Now what?”. When staff complained about the lack of resources or low interest from students or [...]