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Difficult Conversations Made Easy…Easier

April 14th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

You’ve probably discovered, like I have, that some conversations are hard to have. As a result they can be put off; sometimes forever. Usually, it’s the fear of hurting someone’s feelings or of feeling hurt by what they might say that stops us from taking action, but in the end that doesn’t yield the best result for anyone. When situations are left unresolved, angst builds and relationships suffer. Feeling confident to discuss things as they arise helps avoid misunderstandings and [...]

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Feel Like Screaming? Try 4-Step Win-Win Formula

January 20th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , |

People can be so frustrating, at times. Colleagues, family members, friends and yes, yours truly! We’re all capable of doing or saying things that can cause angst or irritation; learning to negotiate conflict with tact and respect is one of the great challenges in life. If frustrations aren’t resolved early they sometimes escalate, resulting in an outburst of emotion that can be unpleasant, to say the least. Then comes guilt, “Why did I say that?” “I should have known better!” [...]

Who Mothers Mommy?

November 11th, 2015|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , |

Researchers at Arizona State University published a study last week which I found interesting. It was titled, “Who mothers mommy? Factors that contribute to mothers’ well being,” I know, some of us are 'Mum' rather than 'Mom' but it’s still the same role and the outcomes are worth noting :) The study involved interviewing 2000 well educated, upper middle-class mothers to find out what helped them cope with motherhood. According to the researchers this group was considered ‘high risk” for [...]

Lost your cool? Don’t beat yourself up…get back on your bike!

September 16th, 2015|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , |

When did you last lose your cool? I ask 'when', because I assume that you may be a little like me and ‘lose it’ from time to time. What happened? Like falling off a bike, it can happen suddenly and unexpectedly. Can you remember what the trigger was? Do you remember how you reacted or responded? Then what happened? Did you beat yourself up for days… “Why did I say that?” “What possessed me to do that?” “Will they ever [...]

New feature horror movie takes world by storm

August 26th, 2015|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , |

Have you heard about the latest horror movie, which some critics are saying is the scariest movie ever made? Featuring iPhy, the deadly phone, with bings and rings that can crack even the sanest person in seconds. iPhy knows when someone is stretched to capacity and overwhelmed,  striking its victims senseless when least expected. This ruthless beast is waiting to pounce on the vulnerable whose sense of obligation leaves them prey to its unquenchable need for attention. iPhy brings swarms [...]

New Bare Hands website comes to life!

August 12th, 2015|Categories: Blog, Communication & conflict|Tags: , , |

We’re excited this week, jumping out of our skin for joy, largely because of you and you didn’t even know it until right now! News Flash!!! We have a new website which means that we can now have a conversation with you through our blogs, instead of it being a one-way chat. We have been itching to hear from you for the last three years and now you can comment and share your insights and strategies too. Getting to this [...]

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Beating yourself up? Good judgement may help…

August 5th, 2015|Categories: Blog, Unappreciated|Tags: , |

Wilma was having a particularly bad day. Her patience was at an end and her thoughts started to get stormy. She started imagining … “The next time Ms Y rings up and complains one more time about … I’m going to scream, ‘I’m so sick of your whinging you ungrateful, irresponsible… Why don’t you do something!’ I’m tired of being everyone else’s door mat. I’m going to tell them all to ‘Take a cup of concrete and harden up. Don’t ask me for help…’. […]