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30 minutes could save the day!

October 3rd, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , |

It’s Soctober, which means it’s social compassion month at Bare Hands Central. If you find this blog useful, in the name of social compassion, please share it with a friend so they benefit from it too. Switching gears isn’t instant and yet we often expect it of ourselves and others. The end of the working day is often when this happens the most. I’m not sure about you but when I get home from work, it takes me a good [...]

Feelings… how do you know when to trust them?

September 25th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , |

Feelings… have you ever felt something so strongly that you’re sure you can predict the future, or what someone else is thinking, or when to make a decision one way or the other? We can be uncannily accurate about what another person is feeling and it’s what makes us empathetic individuals, which is great. We’d all be psychopaths without this ability. However, feelings can just as easily lead people astray. You only have to ask someone who’s addicted to gambling, [...]

How to develop your ‘brain to mouth’ filter…

September 22nd, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , |

When was the last time you had ‘foot in mouth’ disease or were at the receiving end of it? With the prevalence of Instagram, email, Snapchat, and so much more, the ramifications of not filtering before hitting [send], [post] or speaking can cause waves of after-effects. A simple comment on Facebook can go viral in hours and open people up to a world of abuse. It’s more important now than ever to start being mindful of what we say before [...]

Can stress be good for you?

September 12th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , |

Strangely enough, yes it can. Stress gets a bad wrap in the press but there is such a thing as helpful stress. Anyone who has suffered an extended period of boredom will fully relate to how the lack of any expectations or pressures can leave you feeling listless and unmotivated. A dose of healthy stress can reconnect people with feeling truly alive, particularly when it involves learning and stretching to newer levels of competency in areas that a deeply aligned [...]

How to find more of what you want in life?

September 8th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , |

Focus, focus, focus. So much depends on what we choose to notice and how we frame it. Do you see the glass half empty or half full? Is your work load overwhelming or demanding but interesting? Are the kids noisy and disruptive or fun loving and active? Do you make mistakes or learn lessons? So much depends on the way we choose to see it and the great thing is, we do have choice and we can practice looking through [...]

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Is your attention span getting shorter? You’re not alone…

September 1st, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , |

A recent article in The Daily Good cited the 54 page study by Microsoft Corporation, which has found that our digital lifestyle is reducing our concentration span. It’s now 8 seconds …that’s less than a goldfish (9 seconds)! In effect, technology is now creating generations of ‘ADHD’ like adults who are becoming accustomed to constant stimuli and the need for distraction. For example, 77 percent of people aged 18 to 24 responded “yes” when asked “When nothing is occupying my [...]

Clarity of Mind may be a page away…

August 22nd, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , |

Life can get confusing and overwhelming at times and in the midst of the storm, it can be hard to find clarity. How do you make the right choice when you feel torn in multiple directions? Writing 20 minutes a day, for four consecutive days, has been shown to really help? Just 20 minutes of non-stop writing, without thinking about; grammar, punctuation or spelling, can reduce stress levels, remove mental blocks and open up new possibilities! In 2004 Dr. Alan [...]

Going Wild Improves Mental Performance

August 4th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , |

I was picking my path carefully, jumping from one boulder or driftwood log to the next, when I was struck by the realisation. “I haven’t thought about work for at least three days!” Wow, HOW did that happen? That day, on my way to the outdoor ‘loo’, below the high tide mark at our camping area on Ross Islets off Vancouver Island’s wild west coast, I experienced a sense of relief (no, not that kind of relief!). It reminded me [...]

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A Laugh a Day Keeps the Blues Away

July 23rd, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

As a child, my family subscribed to the Reader’s Digest and my favourite part of that little magazine was the two page spread titled, Laughter is the Best Medicine. One of us would often bring out the Reader’s Digest and say, “Listen to this!” and then share something that had tickled our funny bone. The reward was when someone else ‘got it’ and laughed along; it was a source of connection. At age 20, when I found a man who [...]

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Looking for transformation – here’s a tip

June 16th, 2016|Categories: Blog, Communication & conflict, Low mood|Tags: , , , |

Writing to you now as a blissful and content Mrs. Hibbins, rather than Ms. Lebsanft, I wanted to share something that has been a little surprising and given cause for reflection. My husband and I have been together now a decade, so we’ve already spent a long time in a relationship and I thought that marriage wouldn’t really change anything greatly, yet it has. On the outside it’s subtle but internally, it’s deeply transformative for both of us. The only [...]

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The Fijian secret to happiness…

June 2nd, 2016|Categories: Blog, Communication & conflict, Low mood|Tags: , , , , |

Bula… as they say in Fiji, where I’ve just spent a week on honeymoon, right up in the Yasawa Islands. It was bliss and not long enough, but I’m grateful. I was struck by something that has stayed with me. Fijian people are HAPPY!  Not just a few - all of them, all day long! When they introduced themselves and asked, “What do you do back home?” and I said I was a “Psychotherapist”, they looked at me puzzled. “What’s [...]