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The Fijian secret to happiness…

June 2nd, 2016|Categories: Blog, Communication & conflict, Low mood|Tags: , , , , |

Bula… as they say in Fiji, where I’ve just spent a week on honeymoon, right up in the Yasawa Islands. It was bliss and not long enough, but I’m grateful. I was struck by something that has stayed with me. Fijian people are HAPPY!  Not just a few - all of them, all day long! When they introduced themselves and asked, “What do you do back home?” and I said I was a “Psychotherapist”, they looked at me puzzled. “What’s [...]

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Feel Like Screaming? Try 4-Step Win-Win Formula

January 20th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , |

People can be so frustrating, at times. Colleagues, family members, friends and yes, yours truly! We’re all capable of doing or saying things that can cause angst or irritation; learning to negotiate conflict with tact and respect is one of the great challenges in life. If frustrations aren’t resolved early they sometimes escalate, resulting in an outburst of emotion that can be unpleasant, to say the least. Then comes guilt, “Why did I say that?” “I should have known better!” [...]

What I Learned While Folding Socks

December 9th, 2015|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , |

Do socks mount up like Everest in your laundry? Do they threaten to overflow even your largest laundry basket if you dare put off folding them for a whole week? Do you end up with lonely socks that have apparently repelled their mate...two socks on two feet both presumably taken off within seconds of each other, are separated by some strange twist of fate. Then, the day after you finally discard the loner, the missing mate miraculously comes back into [...]

The gift of motherhood – thank you my love

November 4th, 2015|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

This Saturday will be a day of celebration, my son's 21st birthday and I’ve been reminiscing, reflecting on being a mum and spending half my life with this beautiful boy (man). These last 21 years have been mammoth, scary, incredibly joyful and rewarding, yet ever so stretchy. For the mums reading this, do you feel the same? One of the realisations I had while we were stringing up garden lights this week, getting ready for the big bash, was that [...]

Lost your cool? Don’t beat yourself up…get back on your bike!

September 16th, 2015|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , |

When did you last lose your cool? I ask 'when', because I assume that you may be a little like me and ‘lose it’ from time to time. What happened? Like falling off a bike, it can happen suddenly and unexpectedly. Can you remember what the trigger was? Do you remember how you reacted or responded? Then what happened? Did you beat yourself up for days… “Why did I say that?” “What possessed me to do that?” “Will they ever [...]

New feature horror movie takes world by storm

August 26th, 2015|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , |

Have you heard about the latest horror movie, which some critics are saying is the scariest movie ever made? Featuring iPhy, the deadly phone, with bings and rings that can crack even the sanest person in seconds. iPhy knows when someone is stretched to capacity and overwhelmed,  striking its victims senseless when least expected. This ruthless beast is waiting to pounce on the vulnerable whose sense of obligation leaves them prey to its unquenchable need for attention. iPhy brings swarms [...]