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  • You're not selfish

Do you ever feel guilty of being selfish?

August 11th, 2016|Categories: Blog, Communication & conflict, Exhaustion, Overwhelm|Tags: , , , |

Do you ever feel guilty of being selfish?  “How do you know the difference between being selfish and just good self-care?” This is a question that Michael Yapko PhD, in his recent book, poses as one of the top 12 discernment struggles. Too often people give up on good self-care because they wrongly judge something as being ‘selfish’. I put my hand up for being guilty of this countless times, putting everyone else’s needs before my own and neglecting to [...]

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Are you really helping or enabling? Something every helpful person needs to know…

July 27th, 2016|Categories: Blog, Communication & conflict, Exhaustion, Overwhelm|Tags: , , , |

When you see someone struggling, do you feel impelled to make it better and fix it, to stop the discomfort? This can look like; doing your child’s homework for them, fighting your friend’s battles on their behalf, taking on another person’s workload to stop them from getting in trouble at work, etc. If this sounds like you or someone else you know, it’s important you know this… Helping someone to avoid the consequences of their actions is enabling… Enabling teaches [...]

Keeping your cool takes…

July 14th, 2016|Categories: Blog, Communication & conflict, Overwhelm|Tags: , , , |

It can be hard to keep your cool with other people, children, bosses, work colleagues and the like. They may at times seem thoughtless, inconsiderate, rude and even deliberately hostile. Yet, I’m guessing you may have experienced losing your cool in moments and then felt that you didn’t put your best foot forward or represent yourself as effectively as you would have liked. It’s more useful to remain calm in situations and allow your mind to think strategically. Having a [...]

How to make a friend of the voice inside your head…

July 7th, 2016|Categories: Blog, Communication & conflict, Overwhelm|Tags: , , , |

By popular request for help on self-talk, here are some strategies. We all know the critical inner voice inside our head. It’s the one who can pick every nitty gritty fault out, even the ones that others don’t see. It will focus on the one thing you could have done better rather than the bucket load of things that you’re doing well in any day. When things get really bad and this voice takes over your thinking it can have [...]

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What Does Your Happy List Reveal About You?

March 31st, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

At the beginning of last year, as a grade 9 survivor (no small feat!), Miss 15 decided that grade 10 was going to be a happy year. To her credit, she decided to record one thing on her calendar, at the end of each day, that made her happy. Simple enough. What started out as an idea became a personal challenge to see if she could stick to it. Most days her happy moment was something simple...taking the dog for [...]

Feeling stuck? Give up these 5 habits and break free

September 30th, 2015|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , |

Have you ever heard someone say, “I wish I could ________.” Maybe, like me, you’ve done it too. “I wish I could _________” You can fill in the blank with almost anything...have a holiday, lose 5 kg, have a date night, play an instrument, stop smoking, get fit, get the boss to notice my efforts, stop arguing with my teens, stop arguing with my parents... The potential list of  ‘wishes’ is endless. It starts with a desire for something different. [...]

Worried about someone who may be anxious or depressed?

September 9th, 2015|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , |

A conversation could make all the difference… Tomorrow is national R U OK? day. This is a day to follow your instincts if you’ve noticed that someone you love or care about isn’t quite themselves. Perhaps their behaviour is different lately. Maybe they seem a bit overwhelmed or flat. This week, we encourage you to start a conversation with them. Take some time out and ask them, “Are you okay?”. You don’t need to be able to fix it for [...]