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How to give feedback, 8 simple steps…

October 20th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , |

One of the most intimidating things to do can be giving feedback when it’s needed. Are you guilty of not telling someone they’ve got something between their teeth and yet it’s all you can look at while you’re talking with them? Don’t want to embarrass them, right? But how mortifying is it to keep working under an assumption that all is going great, when secretly people are commenting behind your back? Despite the awkwardness of it all, people are grateful [...]

Quality communication begins here…

October 6th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , |

Communication is such a tricky thing to do well. Invariably people misunderstand each other, misinterpret or struggle to stay connected by the inadequacy of language. Despite lecturing in counselling and communication skills, being a psychotherapist and a lifetime of study on this very topic, I’m still working at mastery! I’m better at it these days than in the past but I still feel like there is room for improvement. It takes great courage to speak honestly and vulnerably from the [...]

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A Laugh a Day Keeps the Blues Away

July 23rd, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

As a child, my family subscribed to the Reader’s Digest and my favourite part of that little magazine was the two page spread titled, Laughter is the Best Medicine. One of us would often bring out the Reader’s Digest and say, “Listen to this!” and then share something that had tickled our funny bone. The reward was when someone else ‘got it’ and laughed along; it was a source of connection. At age 20, when I found a man who [...]

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Family culture: it’s in your hands

May 12th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

Family... You can't live without them and, sometimes, it's jolly hard to live with them! Whatever the nature of our family and relationships, regularly taking a moment to reflect on what family means to us and the type of family culture we want to belong to, is really useful. If there's a prevailing mood of cooperation and respect within your crew, that's great! If you feel there's room for improvement, that's great too because now is the perfect time to [...]

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Take Time to say Thank You

April 28th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , |

Taxi driver, nutritionist, chief cook, 24/7 counsellor, cleaner of houses, first aider, dispenser of kisses (and bandaids!), laundress extraordinaire, proof reader, cheer leader, police woman, diplomatic adviser, financial adviser, career coach, keeper of dreams and secrets...all roles that go hand in hand with being a mother. I almost forgot to mention that she’s also the source of unconditional love and wisdom, but that goes without saying! Remind yourself that you're doing a great job As mum it’s easy to forget [...]

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Will Our Girls Grow Up Wanting to Be Women?

March 1st, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , |

As we lead up to International Women’s Day next week, we’ve nominated March to be our month to focus on inspirational women - some that we know and some whom we only know by reputation. It’s also a wonderful opportunity to contemplate what we can do now to improve the conditions of women in the future. As a mother, this is particularly close to my heart as I consider how life will unfold for our daughters and their daughters. The [...]

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The Retrospective Bucket List – What’s On Yours?

February 1st, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , |

I saw my friend’s eyebrows raise in amusement, perhaps even a hint of astonishment, when I told her, “I’m going surfing tomorrow.” Learning to surf was on THE LIST for Miss 16 and her birthday seemed like the perfect opportunity. In lieu of a birthday party and to honour her wish to make this year one of activity and adventure, the family decided to go along for the ‘ride’! So, there I was with the rest of the class; our [...]

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Good Relationships are Key to a Happy, Healthy Year!

January 5th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , |

Have you wished family, friends and colleagues, “Happy New Year!” recently? I have. A new year causes us to reconsider what we’ve been doing and plan for how to do more of  what we like, usually more of what makes us happy. It can be a delicate balance...more of this, less of that. I was interested in a recent TEDx talk which revealed findings from the longest known study ever conducted into adult happiness. Conducted at Harvard University and spanning [...]

What I Learned While Folding Socks

December 9th, 2015|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , |

Do socks mount up like Everest in your laundry? Do they threaten to overflow even your largest laundry basket if you dare put off folding them for a whole week? Do you end up with lonely socks that have apparently repelled their mate...two socks on two feet both presumably taken off within seconds of each other, are separated by some strange twist of fate. Then, the day after you finally discard the loner, the missing mate miraculously comes back into [...]

Lessons of Loss and Love

November 25th, 2015|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , |

Spending time with people who are approaching the end of life is an experience I’ve come to value for the way it helps me put things in perspective. As a result, I’ve discovered that when I approach the week just one day at a time, as you do when circumstance prompts you to remember that each one is a gift, it becomes easier to discern the important  things of life from the not so important. Here are five things I’ve [...]

What we CAN do…

November 18th, 2015|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , |

In light of last week's horrific events in Paris and the global shock and trauma that have ensued, I would like to offer some strategies this week to focus on what we can do, rather than feelings of fear and helplessness, which threaten to prevail. This is a time, as a community, where pulling together and staying focused on a greater common goal is essential or we risk succumbing to anxiety, depression and learned helplessness. We are not helpless. We [...]

The gift of motherhood – thank you my love

November 4th, 2015|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

This Saturday will be a day of celebration, my son's 21st birthday and I’ve been reminiscing, reflecting on being a mum and spending half my life with this beautiful boy (man). These last 21 years have been mammoth, scary, incredibly joyful and rewarding, yet ever so stretchy. For the mums reading this, do you feel the same? One of the realisations I had while we were stringing up garden lights this week, getting ready for the big bash, was that [...]

Two Words That Keep Couples Together

October 28th, 2015|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

Couples who say “Thank You” have better marital outcomes. Just two little words with really BIG potential. According to Ted Futris, associate professor at the college of Family and Consumer Sciences and co-author of a recently published study*, “Feeling appreciated and believing that your spouse values you directly influences how you feel about your marriage, how committed you are to it, and your belief that it will last." The study involved 468 married individuals who were asked about how financial [...]

How to become desirable and popular, guaranteed…

October 21st, 2015|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , |

Recently I was the last keynote speaker of the day at the Samford Chamber of Commerce’s Big Day Out. It was an interesting day for me. I enjoy speaking. It feels comfortable to stand in front of an audience and chatter away for hours on end. This day the line up of speakers was excellent. John Moodie started the day and had the audience in stitches, told us of his arduous personal journey with ill-health and was every inch, inspirational. [...]

The science of connection – 2 powerful strategies

October 7th, 2015|Categories: Blog, Communication & conflict, Isolation|Tags: , , |

Last week I was standing at the bus stop. A massive storm had just passed over the city and it was still a little drizzly. Thanks to my mum, I have a handy-dandy, pocket-sized umbrella in my bag, which she gave to me for my first day of lecturing as a surprise, “Good luck, you go girl!” gift. That lovely act of unexpected kindness has had an ongoing ripple effect. While waiting for the bus, feeling content and dry under [...]

Worried about someone who may be anxious or depressed?

September 9th, 2015|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , |

A conversation could make all the difference… Tomorrow is national R U OK? day. This is a day to follow your instincts if you’ve noticed that someone you love or care about isn’t quite themselves. Perhaps their behaviour is different lately. Maybe they seem a bit overwhelmed or flat. This week, we encourage you to start a conversation with them. Take some time out and ask them, “Are you okay?”. You don’t need to be able to fix it for [...]