Here’s what others are saying about The Bare Hands Project… We look forward to adding your story here!
J: It is a valuable way to reconnect with and understand yourself. By understanding yourself better your relationships benefit. This course provides useful, practical, clear strategies that you can apply to enhance happiness in your life. Thank you – it has been wonderful and very worthwhile. I am very grateful for this course.
Mary-Anne: Truly insightful! From the first session I had strategies I not only understood but had the courage to utilise. By the second session I was making great progress, with a simple change in terminology my boys were actually hearing me again.
Sharlee: It’s important to take time out for you, to be self aware. i think it’s important to take a step back to really understand ourselves, relationships etc. Thank you. I’ve enjoyed your caring and supportive nature, some valuable take home moments than can empower me every day.
Alison: It is a great workshop for equipping women with strategies for dealing with their life situations. It gives them a voice and empowers them. It provides tools for effective communication and gives them a better sense of self worth.
Tania: Invaluable! Something for everyone. Life strategies for life. Thank you Roxy and Laurie – really valuable lessons.
Tenelle: Every woman, old or young can benefit and learn practical life skills from the Bare Hands Project. An easy to understand course, which delves into challenges of a modern day woman and how to overcome them.
Sharee: Bare Hands is a fantastic program of workshops, helping women find themselves, balance and feeling worthy. Thank you, you have changed my life. I really do hope to hear more of Bare Hands everywhere in the future. Every lady should have the right and opportunity to attend these workshops. Thank you from both myself and my family.
Meika: This is a wonderful workshop about dealing and coping with everyday life stresses and different strategies of dealing with them. I really learnt so much and I look forward to practicing it every day.
Heather: Well worth the experience. Even learning one relevant life strategy can be all worth it. Improving one thing can have a flow on effect.
Jodie: Inspiring presentations with practical tools for juggling everyday challenges. Very engaging and warm discussions that make you feel that you can choose how your life will play out.
Di’anne: Roxy is amazing, the Bare hands experience is like nothing I have experienced. It’s practical advice that works, a course designed for women by women. I loved it and have embraced all concepts and will implement them into my life. It’s the first time I will take the education and use it! I didn’t want it to end.
Renae: This workshop is for you if you are a woman, any woman, kids, no kids, stay at home, working or not. You will walk away having learnt so much about yourself and never regret it! I learned how to prioritise myself more and how to overcome guilt associated with doing that.
Elizabeth: The strategies and information taught is invaluable to all areas of your life. This workshop helped me achieve amazing clarity to be able to move forward in my life.
Rebecca: Truly changed my life! This is the real deal, no con, genuine article. Absolutely worth 10 x what I paid for it! Loved the practical examples, strategies that really work, having fun and joking plus getting opportunities to share our experiences and ask questions.
Sarah: Bare Hands provides a fantastic platform by which to continue your personal growth in becoming a more understanding, empathetic, knowledgeable person in the world and relationships around you, and becoming a much more understanding, kinder person to yourself.
Helen: Great course that get’s you thinking about yourself and why you do the things you do and how to change it.
Lara: Come with an open mind and enjoy the personal development journey.
Kate: This is a great series of life lessons that will help you sort out why you think the way you do and why you keep going over the same s— (beep) without resolution.
Liz: The workshop has so many pearls of wisdom and has so much information to apply to real life stresses & challenges. I will be implementing the strategies I’ve learnt to many areas of my life.
Emma: Insightful and full of strategies.
I just wanted to take the time to thank you for the Bare Hands workshops. One left to go!
I have really gained so much from them and really did not believe that I would learn so much in such a short amount of time. I thought I was beyond help – thank you for allowing me to see otherwise and to finally find the confidence to make the changes in my life.
I am part of a very large mothers group and today I have spread the word, proud of the journey I am on. I have had a couple of people ask me details and I have directed them to your site and the workshop at Grammar. Hope you get some business.
I wish every lady had the opportunity to experience Bare Hands. I’m so thankful for doing the workshops – there is no price on happiness and health.
Thank you for facilitating my growth and development. I am loving the course and am living consciously. I love your energy, the way you present with a smile and the manner in which you get the most out of the participants.
Here is something that I said I would share.
My family and I have recently re-located to Australia. We have left behind our beloved family and friends.Two weeks ago it was grandparents day at my four year old daughter’s kindergarten. I was feeling sorry for her (and for myself) that her grandparents are a million miles away and she would have no connection or support on the day.
I opened my email and there was Laurie’s blog post about ‘surrogate grandparents’. It told of how she ‘adopted’ an Australian granny for her children, as their grandparents lived in Canada. This was exactly what I needed to do. I put my pride in my pocket and heart on my sleeve, went across the our elderly neighbours and asked them if they would be prepared to be my daughter’s grandparents for the morning and attend her school function.
They were honoured and delighted. It gave them a sense of pride and opened new channels of communication, as they told me many stories about when their children and grandchildren were young. I am grateful for this opportunity and we are all the richer because of it.
Endorsement from Brisbane Psychologist
How I wish the Bare Hands crew had been around when I was a young mother! Their program is a distillation of the latest research, their own experience as mothers and the work they have done with clients. They bring it all together in a fun, friendly and warm way and best of all, in a way that values you for who you are and what you are trying to achieve.
Sue Hutchinson-Phillips, Psychologist, Family, Child & Relationship Therapist, Lecturer/Supervisor of Psychologists
Hi Roxy and Laurie
I continue to revisit my book and try to remember my strategies, and think I am getting better. Happy to report I have increased my ‘quality’ time and this evening did my first ballet class. This was a huge challenge for me being a former dancer. I am 20 years older than my classmates and 17 years out of practice.
I don’t think that I would have actually followed through if not for your workshops. I would have made excuses but thanks to you ladies I made myself vulnerable to criticism, ridicule and god knows what else. I swallowed my anxiety as there is nothing I can do about all those things that I can’t control, that might not even happen. So in a new leotard, new ‘compression tights’ and my lovely new soft gorgeous ballet shoes I went in and remembered me from a lifetime ago, pushed my body, my mind and had some fun. Gosh it was good to leap through the air and move to the music. My gamble of being vulnerable paid off!!! WOW this is the beginning of understanding what if feels like to have a the life scenario of a Growth opportunity / Learning curve (wrong lingo but you know what I mean)
Thank you for guiding me, inspiring me and most of all for challenging me to be the real me!
I think I have started my path back to where I would like to be.
Ladies you are doing a fab job. Keep up the good work and I hope to see you in the new year…
I am loving the sticky strategies I receive each week. My favourite is the “busy” one! Thank you so much for what Bare Hands is doing.
Mansfield workshop girls say …
“Bare Hands workshops are a wonderful time to reflect & learn about what we are feeling and to become curious about why we are feeling it. I loved it. It has helped me to become more peaceful and gentle to myself.”
“The workshop is a safe space to learn new skills and to have a chance to reflect, analyse, think about where you are at in your own skin, in your relationships, with important people. Wonderful time to explore, learn – thanks heaps. I loved learning new things (can’t unlearn), how we work, what to be mindful of, the relaxed atmosphere, the encouragement, that everyone joined in and was vulnerable in a safe space.”
“This is a saviour to all busy women, particularly mothers. A genuine, caring environment that offers skills, information and insight to be taken home and implemented straight away to manage ‘busyness’, guilt (particularly mother’s guilt) and exhaustion. A life changing experience felt from the depths of your heart.”
“Informative and useful tips and strategies in how to deal with life (and your experiences). I enjoyed learning to stop repeating patterns – constantly going around in circles.”
“This helps to address current, stressful or unresolved situation in your life, using practical and simple solutions by expert professionals.”
“Take the time to stop and think about life and how things can be better. I thought this workshop was really effective! I developed an awareness of self talk, learned to prioritise in a nurturing, meaningful way to get more of what I want.”
Useful and practical skills and knowledge used in all aspects of life.
Due to having a pyjama party on our last night, we don’t have any pictures to share, for the ladies didn’t really want to be on our website in their slippers. But here is what they wanted you to know …
Chantelle: You learn so many useful tools that can easily be applied. it’s a great group and open atmosphere. I loved learning how it’s possible to change your belief to match your values. I also liked learning about my inner critical voice and understanding guilt/fear.
Annie (see her story above ‘leaping for joy’): This is a workshop to assist you to understand situations, thought processes, communication techniques, which can be applied in real life to make a positive change.
Malissa: A powerful insight to self development, of the realism into your world and how simple strategies can help you plan better communications, help people to understand your messages and feel more connected.
Nicole: Some great life tools and nuggets of information to make you look at life from a different perspective.
Carolyn: Everyone will get something from the workshops, no matter what stage of life or what issues you face. I learnt a lot and felt privileged to be given the opportunity to share the learning experience with others.
Nicola: It is inspiring and makes you believe in yourself. Positive change is possible.
Sue: Wonderful learning experience for any woman, whether she thinks she has issues or not. Everybody will gain valuable knowledge about themselves.
Sandra: I found that everything I have learned over the sessions really made sense. I enjoyed the strategies learnt and really look forward to implementing it in my everyday life.
Bree: I believe that the workshops give you realistic values and tips to help with experiences that all women face at sometime throughout their lives. I am glad I made the journey to change so early in my life.
Albany Creek ladies
As an electrical engineer, a high achiever and self-confessed control freak I have often stuck with the technical non-human side of things where logical problems have solutions. I have never really focused on my feelings in the past much to my detriment when my orderly world came tumbling down when I became a mother. Roxy and the competent Bare Hands Project team expose the realities of life and bust the “perfect woman” myth in a simple and fun way. I wish I had been armed with this knowledge when I was younger. I definitely will be teaching my children the stress-busting techniques I learnt from Bare Hands. Thanks Roxy, Laurie and Mandy for caring enough to educate others to make this world a better and more authentic place for myself and my family.
I attended a Bare Hands Project session at my local Childcare Centre and signed up to your blog posts, as I wanted to stay connected to Bare Hands, but you’ve surpassed all my expectations with the information you provide & the difference it’s made in my life. I just wanted to express my gratitude for the tools, hints and tips which are helping me navigate my way through, what can be, daily struggles. It feels great to be calmer and approach challenges in a different way resulting in me being able to enjoy my family more rather than feeling angry, resentful, unappreciated and overwhelmed. Reading your blogs, I feel like you understand my situation and by applying your strategies to my life, my stress levels have reduced considerably. I think my children are happier too! You have certainly made a positive difference in my life.
Thanks so much,
Four months after attending the workshop you can rest assured, I am still using many of the strategies I learned and I must say, life is pretty bloody good at the moment. Gary and I are communicating so much better and he is really trying to open up. YAYYY!!!!
“The most important things I gained from the workshop were: a sense that what I am experiencing in much of my life is not unusual and that I am not a-copic or going crazy. Secondly that although some of the external things in my life can’t change, I can change the way I perceive them and deal with them and finally that it is important for me to set boundaries, take time out for self-care and ask others for what I want.
I can’t think of anything that I would change about the workshops and I was very satisfied with the content.
The strategies I’m using are: I am trying to amplify the positive, say no without justifying, and to ask my husband and children for what I need from them in terms of helping out around the house in order to free up some time for me to do things for myself. I am struggling to be consistent with these things but at least now I have an awareness. I have yet to really open up and be courageously vulnerable by expressing myself as I truly am to people. I’m not sure yet if I really know who or what that is underneath all the conditioning… but I am curious.
Thanks again Roxy and Laurie, your workshop has opened up a new awareness and hope that I can live the life I wanted to live and be the person I wanted to be.”
“Four months after attending the workshop you can rest assured, I am still using many of the strategies I learned and I must say, life is pretty bloody good at the moment. Gary and I are communicating so much better and he is really trying to open up. YAYYY!!!!”
“How I wish the Bare Hands crew had been around when I was a young mother! Their program is a distillation of the latest research, their own experience as mothers and the work they have done with clients. They bring it all together in a fun, friendly and warm way and best of all, in a way that values you for who you are and what you are trying to achieve.”
Sue Hutchinson-Phillips, Psychologist, Family, Child & Relationship Therapist, Lecturer/Supervisor of Psychologists
“I just wanted to let you know how much i enjoyed last night’s talk, it was very informative and just to feel and know that i was not alone going through all these emotions as a mother and a wife. I had a great time and it was so nice to actually have an open minded conversation afterwards with some of the mothers there in my daughter’s kindy group who i wouldn’t actually be brave enough to have these conversation with them on a daily basis when i drop my daughter to kindy. Thanks again.”
The Bare Hands Community Speaks Up:
I have deeply appreciated reading the blog articles over the years and always take time out of a busy schedule and a full email inbox to take them in. With any luck some of them have stuck! Thank you. Kathryn.
I use the fact finding sticky strategy most and then ‘I choose ‘ when doing tasks around the house. The blog posts are motivating and reassuring and keep me focused on being curious when things come up. I know other people are feeling the same. Thanks! Nicola
I always feel encouraged or challenged by the blog and Facebook posts. I enjoy your down to earth approach, and feel what you share is very relevant. I sincerely believe you both have a lot to offer and have a great way of sharing what you have learned and lived. What you share is important and helpful. Carla.
I love your emails and look forward to them. They are great reminders of the things we already know but need reminding of occasionally. I can completely relate to the stories & it’s so great to read them. If I’m feeling a bit down they have be known to make me feel better. You seem to know exactly what I need from email to email. I’ve never read people’s blogs but yours are a part of my week. I love all of them, thank you. Keep up spreading the love. Shelly
I often think back on the practical strategies that I learned at the workshops. The key lessons I have learned relate to the ‘naughty words’ of guilt that I often use in self-talk. Catching myself thinking these words reminds me that I have choice and I am kinder to everyone when I act out of love rather than obligation. Thank you for the lessons you continue to teach – your work is invaluable in our community. With love and thanks, Chantelle
I particularly loved the Sticky Strategies (cards and videos). I found them extremely practical and easy to put into practice. The videos were especially good! Roxy you are an amazing actress and you made even heavy “stuff” easy to overcome. I also like the Resilient Family articles. I find them informative and the advice given was easy to put into practice. For me it seemed that the articles were aimed right at me because they usually addressed an issue that was relevant for me at that very moment. I think you are both terrific and doing a great service to the many women and families that need the exact type of service that you are providing. Adele
Resilient Families articles are GOOD! Sandra
I absolutely love the Bare Hands blogs. I keep them to read as I travel on the train into work. A lot of the time it is stuff I know already but they’re a nice little reminder and I really appreciate that it brings it to the front of my mind. I often share these blog posts with people from work when I think they might be helpful. Thanks again, absolutely love the work you do. Karen
I attended and valued your workshop and Sticky Strategies. It allowed me to give myself “me” time to re-evaluate what was important in my life. I certainly enjoy reading the emails you send through regularly. I get a lot of emails that I don’t bother reading, but I always read all your blogs which are full of encouraging words of wisdom and life lessons.
I find it refreshing to be reminded I am not the only one that struggles with certain challenges in life, and how you can look for the positive in any situation.
I love your candid comments and transparency of feelings and emotions in certain situations. I love women being real with women. Thank you for your passion and for encouraging women and being that person that regularly brings a smile to my face through your life experiences and pearls of wisdom. Heather
The Bare Hands workshops I attended helped me immensely. I now trust myself more and am confident in my decisions. Whenever I get stuck, I think back to the workshop or refer to the Sticky Strategies which are a good reminder of the different situations in our lives and how we can deal with them with confidence. The emails have helped me with family and work relationships, which has been fantastic. Having a plan/strategy in place and learning to trust yourself is an amazing feeling. Not every day is fabulous, but I’ve learned that this is ok too. Many thanks, Tania
The short, bit-sized articles ALWAYS put things into perspective. Thank you and keep up the great work! Helen
We have very good feedback from our families regarding the Resilient Families articles. When I forget to pass on the weekly article, I am often reminded by an email that they haven’t seen the latest one! Susan, Director of Early Years Learning Centre
Your articles are always good. The one this week is exceptional, probably because it’s just what I need right now. Thanks again, John (yes, men need a hand too!)
Terri says, “It was so comforting to be in a room with women of all ages experiencing similar feelings and emotions. Thank you for taking the time to create a supportive space.”
Elizabeth says, “The practical approach and strategies and the ability to simplify understanding of clinical knowledge was really helpful. I’m leaving with a sense of connection, the realisation that so many women share similar experiences and the knowledge that I’m not alone. It’s like a sisterhood in motion!”
Teri says, “Learning about the four thinking functions was my take home gem from today. It’s good to know there is help and practical support out there.”
Who am I? In a nutshell, I have:
- lost my mum to cancer when I was 8 years old
- been the recipient of different abusive behaviours from others since I was an early teenager,
- abused myself through nicotine and alcohol on and off over 20 years,
- been in many dysfunctional relationships (though managed to have a decent child to a decent man),
- had extremely successful but stressful career positions, including being elevated to the top levels of the administration field in a major corporate company in Brisbane,
- suffered from anxiety and panic attacks to the point where I couldn’t leave the house.
Various other events have occurred in my life including some severe health crises and to add icing on the cake, my house was completely inundated by the January 2011, Brisbane Flood. I lost everything except my laptop, my daughter’s favourite toy and the clothes on our back.
I was a person who had been in survival mode since I was 8 years old. I was so involved in the drama of life that I could not see what life was about. I could not see who I was and what I was doing to myself and others. I could not even see others.
Now, I am starting to see. I am comfortable with who I am and where I am. I am not over-striving or pushing for unrealistic goals, I am enjoying the steps forward. I am learning patience (I was one of the most impatient people I knew). I am learning to listen to my body, which tells me when I am trying to please others out of a sense of obligation or to obtain approval. I am learning to say “No”, irrespective of what others might think. I am learning to say, “This is what I need …” and I am learning all of this steadily and slowly.
I am learning that I am 45 years old and do not have to have the body of an 18 year old, that it is okay for me to have a slightly rounded belly, thighs, bottom and face, and that in fact I look better than I ever have.
I am learning to be thankful, appreciative and grateful for all that I do have rather than focus on what I do not have.
I am learning that my mother and father did the best they could and I can truly see them as people now in their own right, with their own fears, anxieties, loves and passion.
With help, I’ve been able to resolve my emotional baggage, got off medication and developed confidence in myself and my own ability to make lifestyle choices. I’ve been able to come back to myself, to discover who I am and understand that what I want counts.
In the last four years, I’ve changed careers to follow my passion, met a beautiful man and created a new life with him and my daughter, found a way to relate to my young girl who is slowly becoming a woman too and developed the courage to be myself. Right now, I’m nursing my dad through his journey with cancer and I’m allowing myself the breathing space to be with him and to be the daughter I always wanted to be. I’m taking time to smell the roses and to find contentment in the little things of every day life.
All the techniques I’ve learned have helped to lift the veil of illusion I had placed around myself and enable me to see more clearly, understand my filters, my patterns and life in all its glory. I have gained – myself.
With gratitude and warmth,